I have a crush on someone at school — is that sinful, and what should I do about it?

Feeling drawn to someone is a normal part of being human — Allah created attraction, and having a crush isn't itself a sin. What matters is what you do with the feeling. The Quran instructs both young men and women to lower their gaze (24:30, 24:31), which is really advice about not feeding an attraction through staring, texting late at night, or engineering time alone together, since that's usually what turns a passing feeling into something that leads to trouble. A helpful response is to redirect the energy: keep interactions in group settings, be honest with yourself about where things could lead, and if the feelings are serious, talk to a parent about it rather than hiding it — marriage conversations do start somewhere, even if you're not ready yet. Parents, try to respond to this kind of admission with warmth, not panic; a teen who can talk to you about a crush will also come to you when something more serious happens.

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