What is the purpose of visiting graves, and what is proper etiquette?

In the earliest years of Islam, visiting graves was discouraged, out of concern it might slide into practices from before Islam. Once that concern had passed, the Prophet ﷺ said he had forbidden them to visit graves, but now they should visit them, for they are a reminder of the Hereafter. Since then, grave visits have been encouraged — not to seek blessings or favors from the dead, but to soften our hearts, remember our own mortality, and pray for those who've passed. The etiquette is simple: approach with humility, offer a greeting such as 'Peace be upon you, people of the graves, believers and Muslims — we will, Allah willing, join you,' and make sincere dua for the deceased's forgiveness and mercy. Avoid sitting or stepping directly on graves out of respect, keep your voice low, and refrain from anything resembling worship at the grave — no bowing, no asking the deceased for help, since dua is directed to Allah alone. Many find that a quiet visit, with Quran recitation in mind, brings real comfort and perspective.

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